Well I havent posted lately cuz Ive been so focussed on just spending every minute I can with my dad while he’s in town visiting. I have been having a great 2-3 weeks spending every evening with my dad, spending all of my weekends with him and just being around him as much as I can. Growing up, especially when I hit highschool things really soured between me and my dad and it left a little void in my heart since then. These past two years things are turning around and we are both focussing on getting to know one another better and having a healthy relationship with each other. He’s also realized Ive grown up and Im doing the best I can at being a substantial and healthy and good citizen of this world and he’s also come to terms with the past so it’s really been good spending time with him these past couple of weeks. My dad is really an amazing guy. I know it sounds silly, me being his daughter making such a statement (it’s as if Im complimenting myself) but he really is. My dad’s pretty old actually which makes me more focussed about spending as much time as I can while’s he’s here. I know one day Im going to really really miss him when it’s his time to go and that’s why I want to make the best of my time while he’s here. living and breathing. I guess we grow up thinking we’ll all live in one happy family forever and ever but after a point, (For me it’s my 20′s) you come to terms with reality that we’re all going to pass on one day. This trip, my dad coming to visit me in India has been an emotional milestone for me because he’s really opened up and was able to tell me about pieces of his life and experiences I had never heard of before. These stories were so profound, it felt it was an honor to be told about these memories of his. Most of his stories went into his years when he first came to America, his college days at Columbia University, how things were back then, finding work after graduating, people that meant something to him, his relationship with his dad and mom, etc. I love listening, discussing, and reading about life experiences. I think that’s why I enjoy reading certain autobiographies and biographies with a passion.
Anyways, because of my dad being down I didnt get a chance to write about my new year’s eve night. It was really fun. I was in two minds about whether to go or not. I was going to this college friend M’s house for new year’s and I wasnt sure I wanted to be there because my ex-husband’s friends were possibly gonna be there and I didnt want to be the focal point of the gossip getting back to him.( I got married in 2006 to who I thought was the love of my life only to find out after 6 months that he wanted to divorce me because he didnt love me anymore and had fallen in love with a 16 yr old bimbo) My friend M has a tactful apparently unconcious way of bringing up people and subjects that touch a nerve, either making me feel uncomfortable or pissed off. And I had a feeling I wouldnt enjoy myself at her party. I have been tactfully avoiding her throughout the year, taking only sporadic phone calls of hers and conveniently being busy when she’s in town. But I knew it had to stop somewhere. So I faced her. I told her I was rethinking about coming because she brings up bad memories and people in my past that I dont want to remember and I dont want to bump into certain people at her party. And she nicely apologized for doing all that and assured me those certain people were not going to be present at this party and begged me to come. I ended up having a great time, for a party that was pretty much put together last minute, with a handful of people with no plans for new year’s, getting together to do nothing! lol.. it was great. I just told myself before getting there that I was going to enjoy the night and not worry about who thought what. I met most of my college friends who I don’t meet up with often so it was fun catching up with them. I had not been feeling well that whole week and so I didnt feel like drinking any alcohol. I stuck to my one non-alcoholic sugary sweet love: Apple Juice and enjoyed chicken kathi rolls with a pasta mayo salad (which i made and brought over) and yummy hot brownies with ice cream.
I hope all of you partied happily and safely. (I saw a car completely flipped over upside down in front of Meridien on the way home at 2am after partying on New Year’s Eve. I just hope everyone involved in that accident was ok!) Id like to take a moment out of my blog to wish everyone, all of you out there a HAPPY NEW YEAR! And as I SMSed everyone this year, (not just forwarded a cheesy corny new year msg) but actually took a moment to reflect on what I wanted to say to everyone…
“Here’s to looking forward to 2009, a fresh 365 days for all of us to learn to be better than we already are, rectify any mistakes made in the past and conquer our dreams.”
With all this birthday – christmas – new year’s eve festivities and family get togethers with dad being in town, i really have been pigging out on good food. I went to Barbecue Nation the other night with some family which turned out to be this amazing barbecue joint (duh!) an all-you-can-eat for just Rs.450 a head with tons of different barbecues to try and a really nice buffet. I had a lot of fun there with my family just pigging out on one delicious thing after another. I seriously have never eaten the way I did that night. I didnt eat anything the next day until dinner that’s how stuffed i was. But it’s a great place to go to enjoy some REALLY good food. The best barbecues were the potatoes which tasted like a crispy baked potato dunked and oozing with cheese, the fish was really good and so was the chicken. They had a number of different dipping sauces like mint green chutney, chilli sesame sauce, mango chilli dip. Trying out a different barbecue with a different sauce in every bite was like having a different meal in every bite. My personal favorite was the mango chilli sauce. I think im going to experiment and try to make that dip at home for a party I have next time. It was like a sweetish mango pulp softened and pureed into a smooth dip with some chilli pieces added into it, to give it that perfect combination of sweet and spicy. Here’s a picture from my night at Barbecue Nation to make your mouth water. (I took this pic myself)
The trick to getting the maximum for your buck is to skip a meal before you head out to Barbecue Nation. So, if you plan on going there for dinner, skip lunch so you have enough room to stuff yourself with all the food you like. The desserts at the buffet were pretty good, I thought they could have been better. The hot mini gulab jamuns with ice cream were to die for though. yummy stuff.
Now that all the festivities, partying and get togethers are dying down I have promised myself as a new year’s resolution to shake off some pounds and be more physically fit. Im not fat or anything but I want to be healthy not just slimmer. hehe. As they say, just got a lil junk in the trunk! So wish me luck people, to losing some weight being healthy and quitting smoking. Those are my new year’s resolutions so far. what are yours?
Currently listening to My Love ft. T.I.
My Love, Pt. 1
By Justin Timberlake