So I had been struggling to figure out if I want to dress up in costume for this Halloween.. I honestly didn’t feel up to it initially because it seriously is not as exciting with no friends around and Gojira not here. But then because of my office Halloween party which is apparently mandatory I decided to put some effort in figuring out a costume to wear. First I thought I’d dress up in a sari since its different and would say I’m a traditional Indian. but that’s lame and I donno it’s like cheating. At Michael’s I saw these cat ear hairbands so I figured worst comes to worst I don’t find a decent costume I’ll just dress up in black and wear the cat ears. But then I started thinking maybe I could be a pirate.. but then I didn’t have the eyepatch, the hat or the sword.. or the right shoes. I honestly want to avoid spending as much as possible. So then I started thinking what costume can I come up with without spending anything. That’s when I realized I could be a gypsy, I have plenty of beaded necklaces, anklets, colorful bangles and dangly tribal looking earrings. I have this cool bohemian spaghetti strap top that has all sorts of different Indian fabric sewn together with pretty sequins, lace and beads. I’m going to wear that with a skin tight, long sleeved, olive green shirt inside. (It’s cold outside, don’t wanna freeze my ass off!) and then I have a half patiala bottom which kinda looks like genie pants so I thought those look kinda gypsy. Theyre magenta pink which goes really well with the rest of my outfit. I also found hip chains which you actually wear on your cumber when dressed up in a sari but oh well.. the more clinky-chimey-jingle stuff i wear the more gypsy I’m going to look (and sound!) I’ve also got some nice kohl that I can wear and kinda extend on the sides of my eyes to make it gypsy ish.. maybe I’ll do the traditional three dots on my chin like traditional women do. I also have a colorful batik scarf which I’m going to wrap around my head. Now when I go home I’ve got to hunt through my mom’s closet to find comfortable but interesting shoes I can wear with it.
My coworker was sweet enough to bring in a skirt I could wear if I wanted. I’m going to go home and try it on to see if it goes and if it fits. But to the best of my ability without being rude I’m going to try to avoid using it because I didn’t expect her to offer me one because I was originally looking to wear a long skirt as a part of my costume and then decided to wear the genie pants. Hmm… She’s a tall women so maybe it will be too long and I can use that as an excuse so she won’t get her feelings hurt. Either way I’m excited I have my costume all put together. I will definitely take pics to put up.. and of course of my pumpkin carving. I’ve decided to do 2 carvings. one on each side of the pumpkin. (It’s big enough to contain 2 different carvings) I’m going to try and do both of the designs I discussed in my Halloween fever post.
Some people in my office are planning to dress up as Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs for Halloween. Since there are so many of them they are going to have doubles of characters.
But it makes me roll my eyes in my head because these people never asked any of us (my team) to join them. The high school mentality just continues for some people. The “popular” “cool kids” never including everyone in their grand plans. They enjoy making others feel left out and the idea that they are so much better than the rest. These same cheerleaders and snobs that were in high school have grown up to rear their children in the same mentality therefore making sure there are plenty of teens who experience a miserable high school. It’s a vicious cycle if you ask me. In the news there’s all this hype about bullying going on. With the recent hike in the number of teen suicides due to bullying, I’m so glad people are spreading awareness and making sure to prevent incidents from occurring. But how many people are guilty of just plain neglecting their peers? I’m sure there are plenty of kids out there like me who weren’t bullied as much as ignored in high school. I think it falls in the same realm. To make a person feel invisible. To feel not good enough to sit at their tables at lunch just because I didn’t wear Ambercrombie & Fitch and American Eagle and because I wasn’t a cheerleader just is seriously pathetic. I’m not saying all of them were like that but most of them were. You’ve got to be genuine and heartfelt to be motivated enough to get to know the quiet kid who sits in the back corner of the classroom or make the last person picked in gym class to feel like they weren’t left behind but it was just a matter of chance. There are so many people that can make the effort to make everyone feel included but it’s easier to just ignore problems. It’s a shame that people “grow up” about communicating and interacting with their peers only when they hit college. But what people don’t realize is that the damage has already been done with all of primary and high school being one lonely existence. One of my very good friends from high school was valedictorian and came from a rich family. I appreciate that she didn’t judge me for the brands that I wore. I’m not saying my family wasn’t rich. We were upper middle class and my family gave me a lot of things to be grateful and proud of. But they didn’t understand the importance of clothing and brand names and being popular and couldn’t grasp my sadness of not fitting in. This whole experience has made me passionate about making sure that when I have children and they start going to school, I will make sure they fit in by giving them what they want to wear. But at the same time I will make sure that they behave like my friend who was friends with everyone no matter what they wore. I hope this high school mentality disappears along the with the bullying. More psychologists and behavior specialists need to be brought into high schools to have workshops with children to give them a chance to remove the walls they’ve put up around themselves and to see everyone for they are and to respect and appreciate everyone in their class. It’s a far off dream but by doing so we would no longer have the need to classify students and peers as “nerds,” “jocks,” “popular,” “losers” and so forth. It would make the experience of high school a lot less stressful for our youth. anyways im done with my rambling for today. this light is turned off.
