So my gojira is going to be here in less than 15 days and I have sooooo much to do… It’s going to be exciting checking off all the things I have to finish doing before he gets here because I know as I cross them off one by one he will be here sooner and sooner till he’s finally here!!!! I think once he comes in my door I’m going to stick to him like a leech and never stop kissing him and hugging him… human touch is so important.. Living alone with no friends and with my parents living far far away I don’t even remember the last hug I’ve received. Im going to squeeze as many hugs and kisses out of his trip visiting me as i can. <3
So here is my to do list… its kind of boring but what the hell…
-call the plumber to fix the toilet. (since last week the flush won’t stop flushing. I mean it stops but the water still keeps dripping down into the bowl so I have to shut off the water from behind after I’m done flushing.)
-exchange barbecue. I realized the barbecue I bought for gojira as a Valentine’s Day gift was seriously too tiny than we had anticipated so I’m paying 2 grand more and getting it exchanged for a bigger one since I haven’t used the barbecue yet and we plan on doing a lottt of barbecuing ( everyday while he’s here) The first pic is what I bought initially and the 2nd one is what I’m exchanging it for.
-Buy plastic chairs for the terrace. Or we won’t have anything to sit on while we barbecue.
-Get mosquito net hooks refixed. My bed used to be on the floor as a divan. After my dad visited me in Jan he decided to build me a double bed. Now the mosquito net which I hook on with strings is too low. So I need to get the hooks removed and put higher up in proportion to my bed. To those of you who don’t know what a divan is check out the pic below.. It’s a fancy word for bed on the floor. lol.
Anyways I have new beds now.. these are the beds my dad got made for me..
In the summers I get natural air conditioning if I leave the windows wide open. I have to depend on this ventilation since I live on the 3rd floor and right above me is the terrace. Because the terrace is right above me my apartment heats up like an oven during the day.. summers are really torture but the nights are nice and cool… leaving the windows open, the only source of relief brings in a whole hoard of mosquitoes. If you don’t sleep with a net you will literally get eaten alive!
- Go lingerie shopping. : / I need to have an element of surprise the first night Gojira comes. I would normally be excited but I wanted company for this task. I wish some of my female Xangan friends lived closer =( I’m sure they would have helped me pick out something flirty and special…
-Take my bike for servicing. I have a Honda Activa. Trusty old thing has taken me all through college. I learned how to ride a scooter for the first time on it and while I got accustomed to the psychotic traffic here in India. It’s gotten pretty banged up in a lot of accidents but it still works and is pretty reliable. I need to get it serviced so its running smoothly while Gojira is here. This is what my scooter looks like.
-Pay my cable bill. I knew I was going to be mad busy these past couple of months so I don’t subscribe for my cable bill unless I know I’m going to be free enough to watch it. I haven’t had cable since Jan. Gojira and I have decided that watching tv and movies will waste a lot of time so we’re not planning on doing so except for the couple of movies we have decided on watching together (The Notebook, Exotica, Avatar, and umm that’s all I can think of right now.) Watching a movie is actually such an anti social activity if you think about it. Watching a screen for 2 hours without talking. But it’s best to get the cable paid for so that he can watch his wrestling if he ever feels like it. Or we might feel like watching something on those hot summer days when it feels like torture to move anywhere too far away from the fan..
-Get the gas pipe changed. In India most households have gas cylinder that they use to cook from. The pipe that connects from the gas cylinder to the stove is a little frayed and is worrying me so I want to get it replaced before I have any leaks.
And then of course there is the normal dusting and so forth. I have some boxes still left to unpack since I got the house painted.. I haven’t even had time to iron the curtains for the spare bedroom. Until they’re ironed I can’t put them up.. I guess I will pay my cable bill and then do the ironing so I won’t be so bored doing it. Curtains take foreeevverr.. and I have to iron the curtains for the spare bedroom AND the living room. sucks… I hope I get this all done in time without breaking my back.. sigh.. this light is turned off..
I have been having a great 2-3 weeks spending every evening with my dad, spending all of my weekends with him and just being around him as much as I can. Growing up, especially when I hit highschool things really soured between me and my dad and it left a little void in my heart since then.
These past two years things are turning around and we are both focussing on getting to know one another better and having a healthy relationship with each other.
He’s also realized Ive grown up and Im doing the best I can at being a substantial and healthy and good citizen of this world and he’s also come to terms with the past so it’s really been good spending time with him these past couple of weeks.
My dad is really an amazing guy. I know it sounds silly, me being his daughter making such a statement (it’s as if Im complimenting myself)
but he really is. My dad’s pretty old actually which makes me more focussed about spending as much time as I can while’s he’s here. I know one day Im going to really really miss him when it’s his time to go and that’s why I want to make the best of my time while he’s here. living and breathing. I guess we grow up thinking we’ll all live in one happy family forever and ever but after a point, (For me it’s my 20′s) you come to terms with reality that we’re all going to pass on one day. This trip, my dad coming to visit me in India has been an emotional milestone for me because he’s really opened up and was able to tell me about pieces of his life and experiences I had never heard of before. These stories were so profound, it felt it was an honor to be told about these memories of his. Most of his stories went into his years when he first came to America, his college days at Columbia University, how things were back then, finding work after graduating, people that meant something to him, his relationship with his dad and mom, etc. I love listening, discussing, and reading about life experiences. I think that’s why I enjoy reading certain autobiographies and biographies with a passion.
I was in two minds about whether to go or not. I was going to this college friend M’s house for new year’s and I wasnt sure I wanted to be there because my ex-husband’s friends were possibly gonna be there and I didnt want to be the focal point of the gossip getting back to him.( I got married in 2006 to who I thought was the love of my life only to find out after 6 months that he wanted to divorce me because he didnt love me anymore and had fallen in love with a 16 yr old bimbo) My friend M has a tactful apparently unconcious way of bringing up people and subjects that touch a nerve, either making me feel uncomfortable or pissed off.
And I had a feeling I wouldnt enjoy myself at her party.
I have been tactfully avoiding her throughout the year, taking only sporadic phone calls of hers and conveniently being busy when she’s in town. But I knew it had to stop somewhere. So I faced her. I told her I was rethinking about coming because she brings up bad memories and people in my past that I dont want to remember and I dont want to bump into certain people at her party.
I ended up having a great time, for a party that was pretty much put together last minute, with a handful of people with no plans for new year’s, getting together to do nothing! lol..
and enjoyed chicken kathi rolls with a pasta mayo salad (which i made and brought over) 
I didnt eat anything the next day until dinner that’s how stuffed i was. But it’s a great place to go to enjoy some REALLY good food. The best barbecues were the potatoes which tasted like a crispy baked potato dunked and oozing with cheese, the fish was really good and so was the chicken. They had a number of different dipping sauces like mint green chutney, chilli sesame sauce, mango chilli dip. Trying out a different barbecue with a different sauce in every bite was like having a different meal in every bite. My personal favorite was the mango chilli sauce. I think im going to experiment and try to make that dip at home for a party I have next time. It was like a sweetish mango pulp softened and pureed into a smooth dip with some chilli pieces added into it, to give it that perfect combination of sweet and spicy. Here’s a picture from my night at Barbecue Nation to make your mouth water. (I took this pic myself)
